Everybody has the right to seek happiness in life, but many of us are held back by anxiety, negative thoughts or a sense of duty. All of these considerations can seem easier when you have space to talk about them.
Counselling and psychotherapy are talking therapies which give you an opportunity to examine your life, your relationships and family history, and your hopes for the future, in a safe and calm environment. A counsellor listens without judgment, allowing you space for reflection, helping you to consider your own best course of action.
What should I expect?
I believe it is important to look at your whole way of living, examining not just your present problems but also your family background, your current challenges and your lifestyle. When we are stressed or mentally exhausted we sometimes reach for comfort from food, caffeine, drugs or alcohol and then wonder why our minds are in disarray. I use methods which have been successful in the many directions of my own life and those of my clients, and will never suggest that you try something which I was not willing to try for myself.
Counselling is not always an easy journey, as with any truly honest self-exploration. I will explain how I work at our first meeting, and in turn you can decide if this would work for you, with no obligation to continue if you feel uneasy in any way.
I am not here to make any judgment about the situation you find yourself in, or the decisions you have made in the past. Our work will concentrate on helping you to sort things out and assisting you to make informed choices going forwards from a calmer place. It is vital that you are here because you want to try counselling for yourself, and are not here because somebody else has sent you or told you that you need to attend - this is because we only commit wholeheartedly to choices we are making for ourselves.
As part of my training I have had to have extensive personal therapy of my own, so I know what it feels like to attend a first counselling session, and can hopefully help you to feel comfortable.
How long will it take?
Our weekly meetings will be for a full hour and can either be a short focused course of 6 sessions or less, to address a particularly pressing issue, or longer term to help you to regain your balance and sense of self. There is no limit to the number of sessions you can attend, it can be open-ended just as long as it provides you with support. You are the one who decides when to end.
After the initial meeting you can decide what you would like to get from our time together. With time I would hope that you will experience a greater sense of balance in your life, and be able to appreciate the moment, not feeling controlled by either your emotions or the opinions of others.
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Don't let indecision hold you back. Therapy can give you tools to lower your stress levels, strategies to help to reduce anger or anxiety, help you to become more assertive or to get in touch with your emotions.
Together we can explore your next career move or perhaps a complete change in career direction, discuss your feelings around redundancy, role play interview skills, identify your strengths and weaknesses, help to tackle workplace bullying.
Gain perspective on family challenges by discussing them with a third party completely unattached to the outcome, learn to communicate better, talk about starting to have children, establish boundaries where before there were none, consider parenting problems or work on getting your own parents to recognise where you are now in your own life.
Therapy can help you to identify unhelpful patterns in your relationships and enable you to resolve issues rather than argue, ignore or run from them. It is possible to fall in love with your partner again and counselling can help you to come closer together, or conversely assist you to get your head around ending a relationship which you have been struggling for a long time to leave.
There are many sorts of loss in life; moving home, divorce, losing jobs, bereavement or stillbirth, losing touch with friends, losing our physical or mental capabilities as we age, death of our beloved pets to name but a few. Often we can feel that we have to put on a brave face for those who are close to us, so we might never acknowledge our own feelings of grief, therapy can be a safe environment in which you can let those feelings out.
Call: 07712 011180