My name is Sally Spigner, I am a professionally qualified, BACP registered counsellor offering both short and longer term counselling and psychotherapy. I am based in a relaxed and peaceful office within my home in Bromley and work with adult and teenage clients.
Counselling doesn't need to be a daunting or frightening experience, let me help to put your mind at ease. Please do call for a chat.
Talk - discuss your concerns in complete confidentiality
Think - process events which have happened
Act - calmly, assertively and with direction
1 in 4 of us in the UK will find ourselves struggling with mental health challenges every year and suicide is the biggest killer of men aged under 50.
If you are overreacting to day to day situations and don't know why, feeling angry all the time or overly tearful, or perhaps unable to make what should be the simplest of decisions, at these times counselling can help you to regain your balance. Consider counselling as promoting mental fitness, in the same way as you might enrol in a gym for your physical health.
There is absolutely no need for you to face your problems alone.
Don't let indecision or fear hold you back. Therapy can give you tools to lower your stress levels, strategies to help to reduce anger or anxiety, help you to become more assertive or to get in touch with your emotions. Learn to notice the good things in your life rather than concentrating on what is wrong with it. We can explore just about any problem you are facing, if I don't think I can help you I will certainly refer you to somebody who will.
Careers are a very different thing today compared with when our parents started work. You are far more likely to retrain several times during the course of your working life, due to changes in your family role, companies closing down, a desire to seek more meaningful contribution or even changes in your own physical abilities. You may have several jobs at one time, as opposed to a career for life, be supporting yourself while you pursue an acting break, or wanting to take a gap year to travel.
Are you being overlooked for promotion because you don't have enough presence in your organisation, or perhaps losing staff and you don't know why? Together we can explore your feelings about your career, start to plan a complete change in direction, or see how you might achieve a better work/life balance. We can discuss redundancy, getting the best out of your team, role play interview skills, identify strengths and weaknesses, examine workplace bullying or consider how you start a case for industrial tribunal.
Gain perspective on family challenges by discussing them with a third party completely unattached to the outcome, learn to communicate better, talk about starting to have children, establish boundaries where before there were none, consider parenting problems or work on getting your own parents to recognise where you are now in your own life. Recognise what challenges you had when you were younger and how they have affected you moving forwards.
Therapy can help you to identify unhelpful patterns in your relationships and enable you to resolve issues rather than argue, ignore or run from them. It is possible to fall in love with your partner again and counselling can help you to come closer together, or conversely assist you to get your head around ending a relationship which you have been struggling for a long time to leave. Our roles in relationships change as we age, from child to teenager, young adult to parent, perhaps on to becoming a carer for your own parents. All of these changes can cause anxiety but can be seen as opportunities rather than loss.
There are many sorts of loss in life; moving home, divorce, losing jobs, bereavement or stillbirth, losing touch with friends, losing our physical or mental capabilities as we age, loss of sex drive or identity around the menopause, death of our beloved pets to name but a few. Often we can feel that we have to put on a brave face for those who are close to us, so we might never acknowledge our own feelings of grief and despondency, therapy can be a safe environment in which you can let those feelings out.
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